Wednesday, November 19, 2008

She's Got Envy

Dear SSG,

Did you have to go and ask a question about something I deal with too?? Yes, you're right, me, you, and almost every woman, no, make that EVERY woman I know has the same issue. Why oh why could you not ask a question about hearing voices in your head or seeing puppies on your walls. (I had the sweetest elderly lady who had that hallucination. But she was 98, about to pass away from natural causes, and they were nice puppies so the hospital team was not too concerned). Yes, even hallucinations would've been easier to discuss then this dreaded, lingering, all-encompassing, ever-obsessive topic.

It's about 1 am as I write this. I'm doing a tad bit of consulting for the next six weeks so I gotta get up tomorrow morning and actually work. I won't be working this Friday so I'll get to answering then. Suffice it to say, in my own experience, skinny attractive people get away with a lot. I mean, a lot. And I say, more power to them (formally us). Our issue is how we choose to deal with the triggers of not being in that particular position of power and privilege. We have other ways to get our needs met and we use other tools but one thing that has set me back is my habit of living in the past. I was in the temple tonight (can we mention that here?) and realized that sometimes I'm still living in 1998. Then it dawned on me that it's been 10 YEARS since 1998. I know. Crazy, right?

So the short answer is to live in the present. And love the present. Forgive the past. But not before you learn from it. Or maybe before you learn from it. Just make sure you learn from it. Because deep down you know you are an awesome being. Two strategies I've been trying to use and that seem to be working for me: forgive myself for letting myself gain this weight and breathe. Long, deep breaths. I've noticed that I don't compare as much as I use to. And I've even set a goal for myself. Think I can do it? I do. Because my focus is inward. But that's oversimplifying, isn't it? Sorry. It's now 10 past 1 and I'm about to grill me a cheese sandwich (with butter) if I don't fall into bed right now.

See you Friday!



The Crash Test Dummy said...

I LOVED this post! You crazy Italian Foodland therapist, you!

Wait, let me tag an envious on there somewhere. SO TRUE, girlfriend!

Funny Farmer said...

Wait. What's the question!?

And are you seriously telling me I have to wait TWO MORE DAYS to find out?

Me no likey suspense. Whaaaaa!

Liz said...

focus on the puppies, they'll keep you occupied till friday.

i kid!

the question was about frustration and some sadness when we aren't meeting a physical standard we set for our self. but other people are. which transitioned nicely into body image, issues regarding envy, and comparing ourselves to others. it was a great question-lots and lots and lots of layers. i'll put it up on friday.

i have to shower now. hey! not fair! everytime i see that cute chickie on my comment screen, i get distracted from my personal hygiene. stop doing that!!! :D

Anonymous said...

I enjoy your philosophy. Stephen

Funny Farmer said...

Dude. When you're three inches tall, puppies are SCARY!

Anonymous said...

Thanks anonymous...who ever you are. Stephen